It is nearly 10 months since my Son was born, and the whole experience was crazy, with most of the load borne by my Wife. Everyday was packed with things to do, whether it is feeding, cooking or washing. Or even the diaper change which has gone from tolerable to plain smelly, after my Son transited from a milk only diet to purée food.
It has not been easy for the parents. Because there is so much to do and also because my Son demands constant attention, we have yet to have time to ourselves. Everyday I am faced with getting instructions from my Wife to do this and that. After a while, it seems more of a work experience than a family. My Wife has not had it easy as well since my Son absolutely clings to her when she is around. He cries like an abandoned baby when my Wife walks a few m away, even when he is in my arms. So the Wife is preoccupied with handling the baby’s immediate needs, while I run baby errands.
Because of this, the Wife and I don’t get much time to talk to each other, aside from giving instructions, and planning what to do over the weekend for the baby. I Guess this is an experience that many parents feel with their first born. The stark contrast from initially married life to being a parent is a rude shock. Sometimes I wonder whether we are still considered as much in love as compared to when we were married.
Hence it was a valuable few hours of time during the recent 2nd year anniversary, where the Wife and I spent a night with the baby being taken care by my in laws. That was the first time in many months we sat down, just the two of us, to talk about how we feel, our thoughts and opinion about the things that are around us, on family, on work, on our aspirations. And it was invigorating.
That short two hours dinner on board the cruise – the in laws were on the cruise as well, so we took over the baby after the dinner, which explains the two hours – was magical. I felt like a married couple in love again, and the feeling was good. A Long lost feeling that made me feel happy and grateful that I was married to this woman, as opposed to the usual feeling of busyness over taking care of the baby.
I Guess, this also prolonged our sanity. To many more years of anniversary. Happy anniversary, my Wife, and hope we can keep our mind sane Long enough for our second child in a few years time.