Feeling Appreciated through a Farewell Dinner

Today, I went for a farewell dinner that was arranged to bid farewell to a few personnel who had left the unit and taken up other positions within the company. It was a little overdue for me as I had left seven months ago. A few years ago, I was the one who arranged for such farewell sessions, and being me, I was looking forward to my turn at the receiving end.

At the end of the dinner, I received my token of appreciation – a nice frame with kind words written by my colleagues in the department. I made a small speech which I had tried to prepare, but the result was miserable as I had not remembered the exact words which I wanted to say. I got nervous and the words came out badly.

Thinking back, I am indeed fortunate to have had supportive bosses. When I was a new person in the department, my first boss helped identify key tasking for me to gain exposure to. It has build me up significantly and I received guidance from him. He has also planned my career for me, encouraging me to take up tasks that would build my career.

I also had the opportunity to spearhead reliability engineering in my unit. I didn’t manage to articulate this in my speech as I wasn’t concentrating very well, but it has piqued my interest in the topic. Currently, I am looking to pursue two reliability-related courses, one from the Singapore Quality Institute and the other from UniSIM. Hopefully both courses give me sufficient knowledge to bring to the unit when I return in the future.

All in all, the farewell dinner gave me much to think about. I am grateful for all the assistance and kindness that people have shown me over the years, and as I reflect, I should strive to nurture the next generation.

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3rd Time Being a Brother

Today was the third time that I helped out in a wedding as part of the brothers team. And it was the easiest session. Partly because the session started only at about 10am in the morning, and there were minimum travel (Just meet at bride’s house, go to groom’s house, to Marina Barrage to take photos and to the banquet venue) and partly because I was more experienced.

It was also this time which I had gained sufficient experience in previous sessions to be able to think ahead and contribute more. Perhaps I have also grown to know what role a brother should fulfil after having planned for my brother’s tasks as a soon to be groom.

The entire session was a fun experience even for the brothers. Although I yelled myself hoarse trying to make the yum seng as loud as possible.

But the thing that impacted me the most was the realisation that I too am getting married in a week’s time. I had two years to plan for this wedding after proposing in end 2013. During the two years, there was sufficient time to procrastinate, although we did complete many of the tasks ahead of time. There was so much time in between that everything didn’t seem urgent and we could slowly do them. And even when the wedding date draws nearer and the furniture in my room gradually was replaced into a couple friendly environment, it didn’t feel as sudden as this. That next week, it would be me standing there and going through the entire thing.

I guess attending a wedding from a brother’s point of view about one week before a wedding would give rise to such thoughts. If I did not attend this wedding, I might not have thought about it this way. It is through seeing it first hand that I realise this would be me next week. And it worries me that I might be too nervous to enjoy the entire process. What to say and what not to say. Whether it will all turn out good. Whether I would have forgotten something, or that my planning was insufficient. Suddenly the jitters are building up.

I told my fellow brothers that marriage seemed to be like a step function. One day you are single and bam! Next day you are married. The lifestyle change that comes along with it is so sudden that it needs some time getting used to. Even I probably need to adapt,  not to mention my bride who will be staying with my family for the next two years. I must remember to be more understanding to her feelings as she transited from a family that she was used to living with for 27 years into mine which she only need to meet during the weekends.

I am excited for the upcoming nuptials, and at the same time worried too. But it will all be well, I guess. Most of the things have been planned and my brothers would be skilled enough to execute the plan. I will just have to endure the next six days before my wedding date arrives.

🙂

A Sudden Lunch Appointment

So today my Grand boss (my immediate boss’s boss) called me up today and asked if I wanted to go lunch with him. I was caught off guard but agreed nonetheless because its not everyday that your boss’s boss call you for lunch. I got onto his car and just went to the hawker centre.

We chatted a lot during the ride there, while having lunch and the ride back. That was the first time I spoke so much to him. I could see that he was trying to know my workload and my surroundings. We spoke about my future possible posting plans and about possible transfers between my staff. He even spoke to me about my performance and told me the areas I could improve. All of a sudden I felt slightly guilty that I raised a point as part of a group presentation during a Command Effectiveness Programme on Monday that I think the people at my level and the enciks should be mentored more. I spoke about how it is important to know how we are doing and how we can improve.

I felt an understand between my Grand boss and I when he said that he used to be like me. He asked me to be more vocal and I asked him how did he decide that he needed to change. He told me that his perspective of life changed. Although it wasn’t a concrete suggestion on the steps to take, but I understood. I had changed over the past few years as well. Experience shaped me and slowly changed me. We make small incremental changes and slowly they become a big change. He spoke about being an introvert and how we tend to think more than speak up. It felt great, like he knows how I feel.

I appreciate that he invested a lunch time session with me. No boss had done that with me on a one to one basis for lunch before. It was an enriching session and extremely beneficial for me. But beyond that, I felt that my Grand boss was one of us, and less intimidating as someone who is your boss’s boss should be.

So today I learnt how it would make people feel to have some form of conversation and frank talk. How it would make someone’s day to just invest some time in telling him how you appreciate his work and how he could improve. I had always wanted to coach and to mentor, but I did not find the time to. It cannot be an excuse that I do not have the time; I should find time. I should spend time doing the things I think are good investments. And when I leave, I would leave behind a legacy, not just another random boss who came and left.

Hence, though the lunch wasn’t good because the food was so-so and it was hard to really concentrate on the taste, I had a great lunchtime which impacted me till now and beyond. I am thankful for the session and I will provide such sessions downwards on a more regular interval and beyond just a small chat by the water cooler.

Merry Christmas: A good time to do a stock take of the year

Merry Christmas.

I realised that I haven’t written anything in this blog since August 3rd. Unfortunately I hadn’t been very disciplined to blog and I wasn’t disciplined to follow my new year goals too. In this holiday season, I tried to pick up where I left off, and am feeling a little more motivated to see things through. Nonetheless, here is a review:

[Workplace] To read one Logistic Orders daily (knowledge gaining)

I did this with gusto with a colleague for about 5 months and this just died off when we started being so busy. This is an excuse, because I could have done something about it but I didn’t. Nonetheless I did reap some benefits and this should be an effort to continue. Question is, how to make the guys do this too?

[Fitness] To run twice a week at the earliest opportunity

This was done diligently too, at first. I can’t remember when was the last time I ran, but I really need to do something about this.

[Fitness] To regain my Silver in IPPT by May 14

I achieved the goal by May 14. I would need to put in more effort given that the IPPT test was recently revised. I would need to train on push ups and sit ups as well.

[Personal Development] To read one book a month and mindmap them

This is an area which I am rather proud of, although I can’t say that all books were completed or mindmapped. After a while, certain topics found had already been learnt and hence I tend to skip certain segments of the books. Here is the list of books I had read in 2013:

  1. Jan: The First Time Manager in Asia
  2. Feb: 5 Levels of Leadership
  3. Mar: The Fine Art of Small Talk
  4. Apr: [I can’t remember the title, but it was about Neuro-linguistic Programming]
  5. May: Clarity
  6. Jun: Secrets of Productivity Ninja [Can’t recall the exact title]
  7. Jul: Start with Why + The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team
  8. Aug: 3 Minute Coaching
  9. Sep: The Power of Habits
  10. Oct: Leading Change [This was something I saw in Kino, and after reading, I realised it was recommended by HBR too]
  11. Nov: Awaken the Giant Within [I didn’t complete it. The main gist of the book is similar to the concepts in NLP]
  12. Dec: Secret to Peak Producitivty [Skimmed through as it was a entry-grade book which did not benefit me much]

Note that I read 13 books. This exceeded the 1 book a month plan. Moving on, I have also identified certain books to read in the new year. I will address that in a seperate blog post. In this year, I have also downloaded and listened to an audio book by Brian Tracy. It is titled the “21 Success Secrets of Self Made Millionaires”. While I agree that driving is a huge waste of time which could be made use through audio books, I can’t say that it is an effective means because my mind tends to drift off during the drive.

[Workplace] To do the Individual Development Action Plan with my team members (One every two weeks)

An area which I completely failed at. I didn’t find the time. Also, in the middle of the year, I read the book about the 3 minute coaching, and I tried to implement that instead.

[Investment] To research on and analyse 1 company per month. Evaluate the best price to enter into the stock market.

Another area where I did not do anything concrete on. I wanted to evaluate it more holistically, but what I did was minimal. I did make many purchases and I missed some as well. Overall I think I learnt a lot on investment through the year.

In the next few days I will review the mind maps that I have done, and also do some thinking about what I want to do with my life. Following which, I will present the new goals for 2015 and hopefully I would have a better report card in Dec 2015.

Merry Christmas all.